One on One

Reese and I have had a lot of alone time lately. She doesn't nap anymore so that is an extra two hours every day there that Saige doesn't get. Then she has been invited to a lot of birthday parties lately that Saige hasn't been invited to since they are mostly Reese's classmates. But I have felt bad telling Saige that we're going to *another* birthday party while she sits at home with Momo. (She loves being with her though!)

Well the other night I took Saige to Target with me-alone. I never take Saige by herself. I don't know why really but I don't. I guess because I've always thought that Reese was "easier" so Saige is left at home more often. Well, she was SO excited to go with me all by herself. She talked in this very excited, happy voice all the way there. Then she hugged me several times and told me she loved me as we were talking in the parking lot (lump in throat right now!) When we got inside she said she wanted to ...walk! I never let her walk in stores because she runs away and touches (rips things off shelves) and doesn't listen. But this night I let her walk. I showed her how big girls hold the basket and to my surprise she did not let go. Honestly, she was a pure delight!

It really made me think! If she had been my first I wonder if she would been thought of as the "harder" child? She is no doubt strong willed but I wonder if we would see her differently if she was competing for time/toys? One thing I know I need to focus on is spending time with them separately so I can see that sweet spirit come out more often. I never realized how much Saige needed that from me.